For years, I’ve defined my cycling life through intensity – relentless training, solo expeditions, and building a community around radical inclusivity. But a recent trip to Croatia with my partner revealed the surprising liberation of not being in charge. Sometimes, the greatest adventures come from handing over the reins.
From Solo Rides to Shared Experiences
My journey began over a decade ago. What started as a practical commute in DC, fueled by a brother-built single-speed, evolved into a lifeline after a difficult breakup. Cycling offered structure, community, and an escape. Moving to Atlanta in 2015, my first bikepacking trip on the Silver Comet Trail cemented the addiction. It was brutal, exhilarating, and utterly transformative. The freedom of reaching distant places under my own power became intoxicating.
However, financial barriers – the cost of proper gear as a queer Black woman in the non-profit sector – were real. This led me to Radical Adventure Riders (RAR), a movement dedicated to making cycling more inclusive. Eventually, I founded RAR ATL, hosting monthly rides, workshops, and a free gear library. The goal: to create a safe, welcoming space for marginalized communities who often face hostility simply for existing.
The Challenge of Balance
My approach to cycling is… thorough. Long days in the saddle, constant training, and a deep immersion in outdoor skills are standard. My partner, Lyn, prefers a more casual pace. To bridge the gap, we opted for a week-long guided tour with Intrepid in Croatia. The idea wasn’t just to cycle, but to find a balance between exertion and relaxation.
Croatia proved to be an unexpectedly welcoming environment. Legal protections for LGBTQIA+ individuals meant we felt safe and comfortable expressing affection in public, something that isn’t always guaranteed elsewhere. The tour group itself was diverse – a retired doctor, an immigration attorney, and others – creating a supportive atmosphere where even the less experienced riders felt empowered.
The Relief of Not Leading
For someone who habitually plans every detail, the experience of simply being on a trip was revelatory. Our guide, Davor, was exceptionally knowledgeable, not just about the routes but also about the local culture and history. He went above and beyond to ensure everyone felt comfortable and informed.
There were moments of real physical challenge, like the grueling climb up Hvar, but the rewards – breathtaking views and, inevitably, ice cream – made it worthwhile. More importantly, I could focus on supporting Lyn, reminding her she was capable of pushing through when she doubted herself. The relief of not having to navigate logistics or worry about safety for once was profound.
A New Appreciation for Rest and Connection
This trip wasn’t just about cycling; it was about rediscovering the joy of travel itself. Too often, my “vacations” are just more intense physical activity in a new location. Croatia offered something different: a blend of challenge, exploration, and genuine downtime.
The experience reminded me why I fell in love with cycling in the first place – the connection to the land, the feeling of freedom, and the grounding power of nature. But it also showed me that sometimes, the most empowering thing you can do is let someone else lead. The opportunity to experience adventure in a safe, welcoming way should be accessible to everyone, especially those who have historically been excluded. This trip has only strengthened my resolve to keep building those spaces, one bike ride at a time.
